04-13-1995 Women of Achievement and Herstory We conclude with the strictures of how to be a proper wife in the servitude of your husband that is taken from a Canadian textbook of the 1950's ... and you wonder why Betty Friedan tagged the problem women had with their servile lifestyle life a sickness that has no name. ". Prepare the children. Take just a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. ". Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher, vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. ". Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and act glad to see him. ". Some don'ts. Don't greet him with a problem or complaint. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this minor compared with what he might have gone through during the day. ". Make him comfortable. Have him lean back into a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillows and offer to massage his neck and shoulders and take off his shoes. Speak in a soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax - to unwind. ". Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first. ". Make everything his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or other places of entertainment. Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax. ". The goal. Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit." (This appeared on the Women In Science and Engineering NETwork and we believe was send in by tigger.cc.uic.edu.) 04-13 Anniversaries ............................................... B. 04-13-1519, Catherine de Medici, guardian of the Royal authority in the Wars of Religions and served as Regent of France twice. Known for her extraordinary political abilities, but her reputation shall forever be tarnished for allowing the St. Bartholemew massacre in France (1572). B. 04-13-1854, Lucy Craft Laney, a free black woman, opened what became the Haines Normal and Industrial Institute in Augusta, Georgia, that grew from five students in a basement to a four-acre campus. Laney had to seek financial support for the institution on her own as it grew to a student body of slightly less than 1000. It established what became the nursing school at University Hospital. The institute developed from all grades to high school and one year of college. It closed in 1949, 16 years after Laney's death. B. 04-13-1909, Eudora Welty, short story writer and novelist, her stories focus on small town Mississippi. She won the 1973 Pulitzer Prize in fiction for _The Optimist's Daughter_. B. 04-13-1919, Madolyn Murry O'Hair, atheist lawyer who won an American citizen's rights to be free FROM religion as well as free to be FOR the religion of one's choice in _Murry_ v _Curlett_ which outlawed prayer in public schools (1963) after her son Bill had objected to being forced to participate in school prayers. The day after the case went to the US Supreme Court, Madolyn was dismissed from her welfare department job as incompetent. Quotes du jour ............................................... "Love, the strongest and deepest element in all life... love, the defier of all laws, of all conventions,love, the most powerful moulder of human destiny; how can such an all-compelling force be synonymous with that poor little State- and Church-begotten weed, marriage?" --Emma Goldman (C) 1995 Irene Stuber, PO Box 6185, Hot Springs National Park, AR 71902, irenestuber@delphi.com. Distribute verbatim copies freely with copyright notice for non-profit use. Don't let anyone tell you there weren't notable and effective women throughout history. They were always there, but historians failed to note them in our histories so that each generation of women has had to reinvent themselves.