02-20 TABLE of CONTENTS: Raising Girls Traditionally DATES, ANNIVERSARIES, and EVENTS QUOTES by Diane Westerfield and from the United Nations. Excerpt from Wishcraft       "Little girls are being brought up differently these days. But if you were born before, say, 1968 - chances are you bear at least some of these marks of a nice old-fashioned girlhood:       "1. You find it difficult to think in terms of what YOU want - to be, to do, to have, to see - because you've never been encouraged to think that way.       "2. Even if you've managed to keep your dreams alive, you may have trouble taking them seriously, because you've never been taken seriously. Your talents and interests were considered, at best, qualities that would make you more attractive to a man, provided you didn't develop them seriously enough to threaten him!       "3. You don't know how to ask for help in getting what you want, because you feel you're supposed to give help, not get it.       "4. Even if you ask for help, you don't know how to put human resources to work for you in an effective, task-oriented way. Most women are personality oriented. We are hypersensitive to personalities and feelings, and we tend to get bogged down in them.       "5. By far the most devastating: you are afraid that if you dare to go after what you want, you'll be alone, because that's selfish - and selfish means alone.       "...how might you and your life have been different if you had been lovingly told that the whole world of human possibilities were open to you to take your pick? Where might you be today?"             -- Excerpted from: Sher, Barbara with Gottlieb, Annie. Wishcraft- How to Get What You REALLY Want. New York, Ballantine, 1979, 1983. p 18.       We heartily recommend this book for any woman trying to find her way to her own individuality, those who are fighting off the brainwashing of a childhood where they were always second best. | PRIOR DATE |        | HOME |       | WOA INDEX |       | NEXT DATE |   | RETURN TO TOP OF PAGE | 02-20 DATES, ANNIVERSARIES, and EVENTS B. 02-20-1805, Angelina Emily Grimke, along with her sister Sarah, were noted abolitistions and women's rightists who drew audiences in the thousands, but were widely criticized for addressing audiences of both sexes which was considered immoral. Angelina's letters to Catherine Beecher regarding slavery and abolition along with sister Sarah's letters on the Equality of the Sexes and The Condition of Women, published in 1838, probably constitute the first published advocacy for women's rights in the U.S. About 1830 in Philadelphia Sarah and Angeline Grimke sat with their black friend Sarah Doublass and her mother to protest the existence of a "colored bench" in the Quaker meeting house. B. 02-20-1874, Mary Garden, Scottish-born American opera singer. On April 13, 1900, while still a voice student without any stage experience, was literally pulled from the audience at the Opera-Comique to replace the ailing lead in the opera Louise and became an overnight success. Sang with the Chicago Opera Company 1910-31. B. 02-20-1888, Marie Rambert, ballet company director, teacher, and considered the key figure in creation of ballet in Great Britain as the Polish- born founder (1926) of influential Ballet Rambert. Taught leading classical dances and dancers, including Alicia Markova, and trained such eminent choreographers as Frederick Ashton and Antony Tudorp. Began career in 1912 as dancer with Serg Diaghilev's Ballet Russe. In 1913 helped Vaslav Nijinksy choreograph Stravinksy's Le Sacre du Printemps. Named Dame commander of the British Empire in 1962. B. 02-20-1913, Nadine Conner, Metropolitan opera singer. Her great grandmother, Mary White, is believed to have been the first Caucasian child to travel by sailing ship from New York to California by way of Cape Hope. B. 02-20-1921, Ruth Gipps, English composer and conductor, published and performed her The Fairy Shoemaker when she was eight, at 17 became one of the youngest to received a Ph.D. in music, first woman to conduct her own symphony on BBC, guest conductor with many symphony orchestras. B. 02-20-1924, Gloria Vanderbilt, artist, actor, fashion designer. Event 02-20-1972: Dr. Juanita Kreps (see 1-20 WOA) elected first woman governor of the New York Stock Exchange. | PRIOR DATE |        | HOME |       | WOA INDEX |       | NEXT DATE |   | RETURN TO TOP OF PAGE | QUOTES DU JOUR WESTERFIELD, DIANE:       "The woman needs to have a better sense of self so that she realizes she can create her own future, her own world, apart from this abusive man. But somebody needs to find out why that man is hitting her and try and change his behavior. If she leaves, he may try to kill her, or, failing that, he'll probably find someone else to abuse. Men are capable of controlling themselves, you know. Just as with rape... a man is not biologically compelled to rape women, even if there's a naked teenager in front of him, the fact of her youth and nakedness does not turn him into a raping robot. He has free will and he has to choose to act the way he does. Let's find out why men are abusing women and how we can stop this abuse!!"             -- Diane Westerfield United Nations Report:       "Women constitute half the world's population, perform nearly two-thirds of its work hours, receive one-tenth of the world's income, and own less than one-hundredth of the world's property."             -- United Nations Report, 1985 | PRIOR DATE |        | HOME |       | WOA INDEX |       | NEXT DATE |   | RETURN TO TOP OF PAGE |