| 12-18 TABLE of CONTENTS:
What is "assertiveness"
DATES, ANNIVERSARIES, and
EVENTS
QUOTES by
Honorable Burnita Shelton Matthews and Althea Warren.
Assertiveness
Assertiveness is learning
not to put yourself down, that you as a person, as an individual have the
same rights and feelings as everyone else - and the same right to express
them. Patricia Jakubowski-Spector, one of the first behavior therapists
to apply assertiveness-training to the needs of women, has drawn up a list
of basic human rights:
Everyone, man or woman has the
- Right to refuse requests without having to feel
guilty or selfish.
- Right to feel and express anger.
- Right to feel and express healthy competitiveness
and achievement drive.
- Right to strive for self-actualization through
whatever ethical channels one's talents and interests find natural.
- Right to use one's judgment in deciding which
needs are the most important for one to meet.
- Right to make mistakes.
- Right to have one's opinions given the same respect
and consideration that other people's opinions are given.
- Right to be treated as a capable human adult
and not patronized.
- Right to have one's needs be as important as
the needs of other people.
- Right to be independent.
You may choose not to exercise
all or even one of these rights at any given time. You can exercise some
of them some of the time or all of them all of the time. It is your decision,
not one that can be forced on you by someone else. Some people who teach
assertiveness-training suggest that you use the phrase "my perfect
right" whenever you are confronted with an assertiveness problem.
For instance, when someone pushes in front of you in line, you say to yourself:
"I have a right to my place in line.
He does not have the right to force himself ahead of me. He should go back
to the end of the line." THEN REPEAT
IT OUT LOUD.
-- excerpted
from Bryna Taubman's How to Become An Assertive Woman. New York:
Pocket Book, 1976. pp. 96-7.
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12-18 DATES, ANNIVERSARIES, and
EVENTS
B. 12-18-1709, Elizabeth, Empress of Russia
provided the leadership that enabled later Empresses to move towards reform.
B. 12-18-1807, Phoebe Worrall Palmer, along
with her husband Palmer advocated the perfection or holiness concept with
the Methodist Church.
B. 12-18-1814, Josephine Sophia White Griffing,
abolitionist, made her home in Ohio a station on the Underground Railway,
became active in women's rights, highly active and effective in finding
employment and homes for freed slaves. Became corresponding secretary of
the National Woman Suffrage Association.
B. 12-18-1878, Edna Fischel Gellhorn, community
leader, suffragist, worked to improve the safety of the water supply
in St. Louis. Was first vice-president of the League of Women Voters and
taught voter education classes. Her mother was director of what became
the George Warren Brown School of Social Work at Washington University.
B. 12-18-1881, Gladys Rowena Henry Dick, microbiologist
and physician, attended Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine,
organized the women students so they could buy their own house because
the school did not have women's quarters. After several posts she joined
her husband at Chicago's John R. McCormick Memorial Institute for Infectious
Diseases and remained there from 1914 to her retirement in 1953. Made important
contributions to the prevention of scarlet fever, including the Dick test
which immediately spread throughout the world. The couple's patent of the
process caused a furor and probably prevented them from being awarded the
Nobel Prize in 1925 for which they had been nominated; none was awarded
that year. She was the founder of the Cradle Society, probably the first
professional organization devoted to the adoption of children.
B. 12-18-1886, Althea Warren, librarian
in charge of getting the 10 million books used by the men and women of
the armed forces in World War II.
B. 12-18-1888, Gladys Cooper, Anglo-American
stage and screen actor. Preferring the stage, she didn't go Hollywood
until she was in her 50's where she garnered three Academy Award nominations.
American audiences who only knew her as an older woman would be surprised
that she was a World War I pinup (clothed in those days).
B. 12-18-1894, Burnita Shelton Matthews, first
woman to sit on the U.S. District Court (District of Columbia-1949),
active campaigner for women's rights with the National Woman's Party, picketed
the White House, studied music and taught, moved to Washington, D.C. Worked
during the day at the Veteran's Administration and studied law at night,
got her degree (1920), instrumental in changing D.C. law that barred women
from juries, and eliminating the preferences under the law for the male
line.
B. 12-18-1916, Betty Grable, singer-film actor
best known as the most popular *pin-up* girl of World War II, especially
the photograph of her in a one piece bathing suit and high heels looking
back over her shoulder.
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QUOTES DU JOUR
MATTHEWS, BURNITA SHELTON:
"An
equal rights amendment to the Constitution would... secure equality of
legal rights for women as far as they can be secured by law."
-- Burnita Shelton Matthews,
1949.
WARREN, ALTHEA:
"It used to be a comforting belief that wars were apportioned one
to a generation. It was supposed that men who fought a war would not knowingly
engage in a second one."
-- Althea Warren
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